Answers To Feeling Therapy Oriented Questions (October, 1998 -Feeling Small During Orgasms) by Paul Vereshack M.D.

Question:-- Why Does One Sometimes Feel Small After An Orgasm?

(Notwithstanding his M.D. Dr. Vereshack is not a licensed physician)

by Paul Vereshack M.D.

Feeling Small During Orgasms

Someone asked me the other day why they felt so small immediately after having an orgasm?

I think orgasms can take us to all sorts of young places. These places are from the formation and memory of our early years.

It was feeling very small after orgasms that finally taught me how my infant and childhood needs have been sexualized. When I want a woman, sexually, I want deep nurture, a mother's final love, primal love, begining and underpinning love.

I was trying to "fuck" (feel) my way toward a new infancy.

I was trying to re-engineer finally, the base I just didn't, and in many ways, still don't have.

This powerful re-experiencing of smallness wasn't about actual "abuse." It was about having emptiness, where the ground of parental love should have been.

Only in feeling small and infantlike, at the moment of orgasm, was I finally made really aware, of how I am the tiny child searching for the mother it never really had.

Only when the power of an orgasm was washing through me did the feeling of being "grown up", get washed away.

My false adulthood receded, and the truth of my childlike state during sex, washed up on the shores of my consciousness.

I finally understood what I had been searching for underneath the endless pursuit of women.

Paul Vereshack M.D.

Dr Vereshack is the author of an online book entitled Help Me -- I'm Tired of Feeling Bad

Other pages on this website about Dr. Vereshack's writings include:

Book Review of Help Me -- I'm Tired of Feeling Bad
The Primal Page's Favorite Quotations from Help Me -- I'm Tired of Feeling Bad
The Primal Psychotherapy Page Interviews Paul Vereshack, M.D.

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